If I dint go MGTOW, what other options did I have?
I made myself available to too many women. Nobody respected it.
I took the initiative. Every single time, I was rejected.
I spent a lot of time to write a good profile presentation on social networking sites, I still got rejected.
I thought maybe there is something wrong with me. I developed myself and worked hard on academics. Thought maybe, if i get to learn a woman as a friend, maybe that will take the relationship somewhere. But I got friend zoned.
I kept working hard. Landed a good job in a tech company with good enough salary.
Now if i get interests from women, what should I think about them? Whores? What else do you call things that don’t respect you when you be nice to them and give all the fuck when you establish yourself?
And then they expect men to treat them like princesses and spoil them all the time. Why should I? I would if they loved me back when I loved them.
How low should I go?
Maybe one reason for MGTOW men to get back into relationships is if she is aggressive and desperate as I was in my mind 20s. If she takes the initiative, go through nuclear rejections, pay for the dates, pampers us, maybe. Remember gender equality means, men shouldn’t be the only ones taking the initiative. So women, get your acts together and take the initiative.
If you read my blog, you would know that I support polygamy for both women and men. Unlike Islam :P.
It should be the person’s choice. If one prefers polygamy, he or she should have the right to pursue it. It should not be a taboo.
I tried open relationship once. When I was 25 years old, I had a semi-girl friend. Guess what semi-girl friend means ;). So she was already in love with another man. But she had to move to my neighborhood, away from her other boy friend. And she needed company while she stayed here.
I seldom get girl friends and i am liberal, So i said Ok.
It went on smoothly for a while. I never met him, never talked to him. Just knew he existed somewhere. But as time passed by, there was always this feeling inside me that this is temporary. I couldn’t commit myself completely, because I knew she would be gone one day. Although I knew monogamous relations will also be gone or divorced one day. I could feel that she felt the same way too. But we had good sex the whole time ;).
I consider myself excessively romantic. I like to spoil and surprise my girl and make her feel special. But I couldn’t do it for her. Don’t know why.
And time passed by. And she left as expect. Surprisingly, she dumped the other guy too.
Another reason why I felt insecure in this relationship is, I knew it would be easy for her to move on and find other partners. But as 25 year old average man, it is impossible for me. So I felt if i am showing excessive care and love, she should deserve it and i should have equal opportunity for open relationships.
Maybe I need another chance to truely experience open relationship. Or maybe open relations are too tricky.